Love for married. For my friends who are… MARRIED Marriage means true companionship and oneness, where love is the parent.

Love for married

For my friends who are… MARRIED

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 Love is not about “it’s your fault”   ………   but “I’m sorry”

 Love is not about “where are you” ……….  but “I’m right here”

 Love is not about “how could you”  …….  but “I understand”

 Love is not about “I wish you were…”…. but “I’m thankful you are…”

The love and friendship between a man and a woman grow into a desire for marriage.

Marriage gives the couple the grace to grow into a union of heart and soul. A happy marriage has in it all the pleasures of friendships, all the enjoyment of sense and reason – and indeed all the sweets of life.

Marriage recognizes the interpersonal relationship of man and woman, in which the well-being and self-realization of each partner become a priority for the other. Marriage provides a solid foundation for romantic love. The union of a man and a woman is natural. Marriage provides a framework for the mutual love and self-giving of man and woman to each other in human sexuality, and in so doing, provides for continuity of the human family. Motherhood is the highest fulfillment of woman’s nature and marriage provides this .Religions have always protected the sanctity of marriage and the family.

Marriage provides the couple the stability for themselves and their children. Children are the fruit and bond of a marriage.

Marriage is not a ritual or an end of a love relationship but it is the beginning of a long, intricate, intimate dance together where your own sense of balance and your choice of partner matters the mast. People stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of virtues like kindnesses, forgiveness and gratefulness.

Thus, let’s say, marriage is the real thing to be done in an ideal love relationship.

Marriage is that relation between man and woman in where they have the equal amount of independence, they are mutually dependent, and they reciprocate the obligation. When couples agree on ground rules, they truly feel safe, free and intimate in a relationship. They need to respect each other and honor their commitments. Marriage is a commitment to find and bring out the best in each other. Marriage offers opportunities for sharing and growth which no other human relationship can equal. It is a physical and emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime .

Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life’s most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other’s best friend, confident, lover, teacher, listener, and critic.

આપણા હિંદુ પુરાણો પ્રમાણે આદર્શ પત્નીમાં આ છ ગુણો હોવા જોઈએ …. 

કાર્યેષુ મંત્રી  ….     એટલે કે કાર્યોમાં મંત્રીની જેમ સલાહ અને સૂચનો આપી અને વર્તનારી

કર્મેષુ દાસી  ……   એટલે કે કર્મ કરતી વખતે દાસીની જેમ વર્તનારી અને કોઈ પણ કાર્ય કરવામાં નાનમ ન અનુભવનારી .

ભોજનેષુ માતા..  એટલેકે ભોજન કરાવતી વખતે માતાની જેમ પ્રેમ અને કાળજી કરનારી

શયનેષુ  રંભા….  એટલેકે શયનખંડમાં પ્રેમિકા બની અને પતીપ્રિયા બની રહેનારી

ધર્મેઅનુકુલા ….   એટલેકે ધર્મના કર્યોમાં અનુકુળ બની રહેનારી

ક્ષમયા ધરિત્રી … એટલેકે ધરતીમાં જેવી સહનશીલ અને ક્ષમા દેનારી .

હું તો કહું છું કે પત્નીમાંજ શું કામ ? આજ ના સમય પ્રમાણે તો , ખુશહાલ અને સફળ લગ્ન માટે , આ બધાજ ગુણો પતિ અને પત્ની બંનેમાં હોવા જોઈએ .

There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.

Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life.

When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a potential promise, made in the hearts of two people who love, and it takes a lifetime to fulfill the same.

In Marriage, Love is often Misunderstood and shunned, it rarely takes root, but if it does, the delicate fiber of love can endure the stress and strain of the daily grind. Its soul is too strong and can adjust itself to the complex weave of our social fabric. It weeps and moans and suffers with those who have need of it, yet has the capacity to rise to love’s summit. The Love is the potential force in the life of married men and women. Marriage means true companionship and oneness, where love is the parent.

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Paru Krishnakant “Piyuni”

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