* LOVE AND TRUST *
My Dear young Hearts,
It is after a long break, that I thought of writing on “Love” …. the most wonderful feeling on the earth ! But I am sure , this is something very important worth sparing some time and thought.
Keep the trust… (your beloved savors in you.)
Keep trusting…..(savor trustworthiness in your beloved )
Keep your relationship fragrant always !!!
Trust is the foundation of love.Trust means to believe. I trust you, means I have no doubt in my mind about your honesty, integrity and credibility. No relationship can survive without trust. It’s important to develop and keep the trust in a relationship forever, because as soon as the trust breaks, the relationship breaks. Trust is the foundation on which a relationship is built. If you don’t trust a person, howsoever you may love him/her; your relationship will not survive, because you have no trust in your partner.
The love relationship is ideally the closest relationship any one can have with another person. Closeness means intimate knowledge regarding one another and this is knowledge is dependent upon honesty, openness and communication between two individuals. For some people, lack of capacity for self-expression creates a barrier in creating and maintaining a close and mutually trustworthy relationship, but still this barrier is more forgivable than intent to conceal or hide. You deliberately choose to trust. Just as you can decide to betray someone, you can also decide to give that person your loyalty. Trust is the foundation of love.
Open communication is a risky matter. People who have nothing they are ashamed of in their life are more likely to be shameless liars than people of exemplary conduct.Telling deeds of misconduct to a beloved, risks loss of trust and loss of love. Any person who can feel the riskiness of self-revelation for themselves can surely understand that their partner would have similar fear. Ultimately, trust requires you to move toward love and away from fear. In True Love, one has to choose to stop being afraid of the consequences of trusting someone and to start connecting deeply with that person instead.
Trust is not something all loving relationships start with. For some couples the trust becomes complete in a few years. For others, it takes awhile. But one thing is for sure; happy and successful marriages and relationships survive and thrive on the basis of this trust. Trust is pervasive in relationship, and it is never given a second thought. Individuals in love or marriage, expect it to be always there. Trust is part of the fabric of a happy relationship.
Trust can be violated by failures of competence — such as forgetfulness or clumsiness — as well as betrayal. Although it is easier to forgive good intentions, any source of predictable lack of dependability undermines trust.
When there is an undeniable evidence of preplanned betrayal the ego and heart are wounded and love can quickly turn to hate mixed with grief. A single revelation can suddenly illuminate a pattern of deception and raise suspicions. One reason betrayal is so painful is that it indicates a fundamental lack of respect. A person can only betray another if he/she don’t value or hold the partner in high esteem that also means there is no honor for the partner and partner’s feelings are not considered to be important.
At times it may also happen that incessant suspicion; distrust and resentment associated with imagined betrayals can poison the possibilities for love. Pre-emptive, self-protective disbelief in the trustworthiness of a partner can destroy a happy relationship.
Some people have the capacity to love without trust of any kind. Whether such people are big-hearted or foolish cannot be answered and is a subjective matter. Unconditional love can be a warm security blanket, but it is also not a tribute to lovability or worth. Love that does not discriminate good from bad is an undeserved reward!!!!
Paru krishnakant “Piyuni”